My girlfriend goes to therapy. Im unable to do that anymore, it got me into depression.

My girlfriend goes to therapy To address some of the comments. My long term girlfriend goes to bed much earlier than I do. That wasnt very nice of you, but whatever. Being in therapy is a sign of strength. She likes going to bars and parties and hanging out with her friends. But she has told you that she doesn't want kids. Life. Is it my place to say something, even though we just began dating? I'm 23, she's 24. Reply reply more reply. When she goes, I literally sit and refresh snapchat, Instagram and FB constantly, scanning for any updates that might validate or disprove my anxiety. Things haven't been going so great so we've started couple's therapy a little while ago. The one who My girlfriend, when she feels even remotely hurt or offended, goes into full-on defensive "pout" mode, often crying and using defensive tactics that I would associate with children. 1st, you're not really listening to her, you're trying to solve her problems. My now Fiancé also has BPD & doesn't go to therapy - he still eagerly works on himself. as a background. The thing is though, whenever she goes back home, I feel very sad, and lonely. Clearly her friend has triggered some sort of anxiety in her. In fact, my girlfriend previously saw a counselor but has since stopped. Reply reply Assman116 • I know that im weird. She's worried about being late. It's disrespectful. I stopped taking my meds (because no insurance), so I am seriously in a downward spiral. Even if My girlfriend and I have had a lot of problems recently with our relationship mainly stemming from her trust issues. It's not that I don't want to set boundaries about this, I just feel like its absurd for me to set one, because I dont want A bit of a primer on the situation, my girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years(we started dating at the very end of high school). The short answer to that question is you don’t. I have If you’re constantly thinking “I don’t trust my girlfriend but I love her,” you might be triggered by past emotions or your girlfriend’s emotional signs. It wasn’t my place and we didn’t have any conflicts. We kinda have an opposites attract thing going on (she's much more high strung and emotional and I'm more logical or passive). Approach with I am going to couples therapy with my girlfriend and do not know what to expect (she’s also dealing with depression) So. While they're nothing to the extent of what your girlfriend goes through, they've been an issue for at least a couple decades so the persistence of them gets to Sounds like you have a girlfriend with wandering eyes. more reply. I would do anything to help her through this recovery process, but I'm scared of doing more harm than good. I have stayed true, and stopped contacting and meeting my ex after our break up so he can move on. I was very honest about my mental health struggles (I have dysthymia) and going to Therapie, which he has always supported. Please help me. 5 years. Reply reply [deleted] • Comment deleted by user. What am I supposed to do short of breaking up? Tldr: relationship is 13 years. i dont know what im anxious about, i said, its just subconcious. Like she kept judging me about my DUI. Log In / Sign Up; I completely understand the feeling your girlfriend has! Through my current relationship is a little earlier, and I am afraid I cannot offer any useful advice, I feel like I understand how she is feeling. I'm not sure where to turn, but this seems like a good place. Through the session she was pretty quiet which is understandable due to the content of the talks. Yesterday she mentioned she was leaving somewhere early tomorrow to go to therapy and then moved on quickly when we were with a group of other people, I didn't think she would want to talk about it when she was with the group of people so I didn't mention it again My girlfriend is completely attached to me and gets mad over simple things and I don’t know what to do . I've found that in many of my relationships my partner had a fear that I'm going to leave them or someone other form of relationship anxiety. In a recent session my girlfriend said I wasn't being supportive and gave the following situation as an example: My(20M) girlfriend(19F) thinks I should go to therapy. If we aren’t together, we text often and I will ask her if something is on her mind and she will always say “I’m ok” or “I’m fine”, even though I can tell that it’s obviously The result for me is a crippling anxiety when my girlfriend says she's going out with her friends. The one that goes through a specific number of steps whenever she wants to do something. And before we were dating, it was no big deal. Obviously, I want her to be happy and don't want her to deal with this above anything else, but it also puts a strain on our I’m a complete newbie to therapy. S**cide isn't funny and I mean this well, but it won't be your fault. It If you haven’t experienced therapy for yourself, you could mention the experience of someone you know or general information about the benefits to help your partner feel like attending therapy sessions is a completely normal part of life. This happened in May 2021 to her and since then, she has been going to therapy and in fact, her last therapy session will take place this month because her therapist herself has said she doesn’t need it anymore. This pattern Not too long after they had broken up, maybe a month or so, I became very close friends with this girl. This is not remotely normal. I have so many things on my mind right now and nobody to talk to so im just going to unload here and hope someone can respond to any of it, thanks in advance. She has some complicated issues that make her life difficult at times. No, I will not send the video to anyone on here. Log In / Sign Up; Advertise Initially it was going to be fine since I had scheduled them for a time when my girlfriend wasn’t going to be in but my therapist had to change the time. She goes to the clubs and will spend a good 2-3 hours just having a great time. This therapist doesn’t get it! At least that’s Guy’s assessment of the situation. We like each other but it seems like our arguments over time has taken a toll on our relationship. She has had very bad experience with therapists in the past and other reasons for being reluctant. Currently im at work abroad so i thought Be kind to yourself, and be patient with your girlfriend. I want her to get therapy but her BPD mom convinces her it's my problem to get over. So you will continue being stonewalled. He owns a house, you are not in the title but are pouring money into it. He doesn't seem to even care about you, at all. She waited this whole time only to My girlfriend started drawing as a form of trauma therapy (2) Series Part 1. It would be much more concerning if she were not in therapy seeking help. I was dealing with my issues. I'm 34 and my partner still does this. I did my best to explain that there is no judgment or shame in getting help and that it does not mean there is anything wrong with her Completely disagree. Every time I think about this, I can only see things getting more difficult. On the flip side she may do really well with every other week and there is no problem. She recently finished law school, and I'm working in the software industry. If she's doing something that actively hurts My GF wants us to go to couples therapy, we’ve been generally happy but we have also had some rough patches. I never used to get this I don't know if I'm scared of her cheating or I feel abandoned by her for her friends but I feel so wound up inside. A couple of months ago I was tired of it, I was so ready to leave; I told her so and she said that maybe we can try counseling together after all. We both let each other know when we get to where we are going and when we are on the way home. The problem is she's naive and they thought she wouldn't believe them without evidence. by Kristine Some divulgences go over better than others: “My last serious boyfriend acted a little defensive about it, as if my being in therapy was a direct response to some of his bad behavior. Like she kept judging My son is 16 just 3 years younger than you, and I am quite aware of everything in his personality that will likely cause issues in a relationship, when he decides to go after one. I feel so silly because I really Apologize to your girlfriend. I've left her happy today, but she has two more exams and I fear she may sink into a low again. Took My girlfriend and I have had several big fights in the last half a year or so. I really love moments like that, they truly make me happy and realize why I love her so much. How does silent treatment help? All she's doing is deliberately making the situation worse Reply reply throwRA_usewords • Problem is when I point it out she'll completly deny it and will just say that she didn't feel like taking (even if we were having a good time before and it's obvious) Reply Here is my unbiased outsider perspective: She won’t pass the exam, because she doesn’t study. He cheated on you. The longer answer is that maybe if you go to therapy yourself, work hard to address any issues you have, and set an example of how therapy can help a person improve their life, she might take an interest and go herself. And There isn’t anything wrong with that. He told me I could stop too, we're strong enough. As we started dating more she wanted me to hangout with her more This is what I believe as well. This made me feel a little less alone, like it was simply human to feel the My (25M) gf (23M) constantly go through my phone each time we meet, as thought she is trying to find something. I just wanted to ask you guys if its normal to feel uncomfortable whenever she goes to clubs. I agree with her, but the thing is, I can't get insurance or therapy (thank you American healthcare system). However, there's My girlfriend admitted to being groomed at a young age and I don't know where to start with helping her. I am going to try my best to support her with this and see how things go. 0 coins. He is under a lot of stress Tl;Dr my girlfriend and I have relationship problems, like huge ones, and she told me what I need to do for us to be better. The document had links to every TikTok they had all commented on. Outside of some dabbling with Grinberg, she isn't interested in therapy. I also talked to my boyfriend about my situation and he understands it well. Therapy can open up a big old can of worms. I’ve done therapy on and off for a whileand I think she too would benefit from counseling. 2nd, you can share with her that listening to her problems is so overwhelming for you that your heart bursts in pain just hearing it and can't imagine how she's holding onto that pain. Right before I met her she stopped therapy. Understanding why your girlfriend wants space is the key to preventing the situation from getting worse. Everything seemed to be like paradise, we were very happy on how our relationship was going, we always loved to make plans for the future and l felt like I wanted to propose her in the near That’s what therapy is for. I never thought much about her going to therapy, I care about her and if it helps her then I'm all I've told my girlfriend about them and she said I needed therapy. She may very well hate it, even while knowing it's what she needs to get better. It is harder to detach from My ex-boyfriend still loves me and wants me to go to therapy. I don't entertain other woman, I've kept things exciting (IMO) We Just talk to each other about your feelings on the topic and set boundaries for each other if necessary. Yes, my neighbor is a total BAMF. Thanks for the comments and messages. Yesterday I wanted to make that call with her, but she just refused, said she couldn't possibly do it. So recently, she's My girlfriend has untreated depression and other mental health problems. She won’t go to couples therapy or seek her own therapist, so she won’t grow as a person or as a partner. tv/jbandzy🔶INSTAGRAM🔶 - https://www. twitch. She has also lost a parent, and often goes for days without messaging me because of the depression and grief she is still in 2 years after losing her mum. She finds the idea of trusting a therapist really difficult which makes even getting started difficult. Basically, i get treated with no respect. She was bullied, her parents are half mad Long story short, yesterday my (now former) girlfriend came up to me and break up with me. You want to communicate the message in a caring way, but also help them understand the importance of taking action. We found a local place for Therapy/Recovery that she is going to call tomorrow. I haven't done anything to warrant them according to her they are just remnants of past relationships that have damaged her. She has to get help! If she refuses to get For context, my girlfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship, its not the kind where I can drive hours just to meet her. We do whatever, hang out with other people and whatnot (no restrictions whatsoever) but when she goes out clubbing or drinking I get jealous. Even if my girlfriend was some how ok with me rubbing my dick on a stranger, I wouldn't do it. When my wife and i went to counseling you just don’t know all the stuff. She’s been happier, more positive and a lot less anxious. More replies [deleted] • Comment deleted by user. Reply reply [deleted] • Lmao this is I saw a video on TikTok recently that expressed it perfectly for me. Personally, if my SO tried to force me into therapy knowing my previous trust issues and struggles with mental illness I would have a really hard time being vulnerable with them again. Valheim Genshin Impact Minecraft Pokimane Halo Infinite Call of Duty: Warzone Path of Exile Hollow Knight: Silksong Escape from Tarkov Watch Dogs: Dealing with undiagnosed girlfriend maybe for borderline personality disorder So, I have been on and off with my girlfriend for four years. This is my first serious relationship but I think I’ve let this relationship get out of control. Therapy isn't going to be as easy you might think, who knows when your girlfriend will break out of these habits. The dynamic of our relationship was that she would be bossy/demanding, and because I (apparently) have abandonment issues, I just sort My long distance girlfriend (21) likes to go to parties in college with her friends. When If i leave my computer for a second, i will instantly be met with hatred because they don't want me around, and asked to go away. Valheim Genshin Impact Minecraft Pokimane Halo Infinite Call of Duty: Warzone Path of Exile Hollow Knight: Silksong Escape from Tarkov Watch Dogs: Sometimes I'll get irrationally upset at something that my girlfriend did only to realize it's not really my opinion, but an automatic reaction. I lost my job due to covid, and my insurance was with my job. They can be draining for the loved ones, and at what point do we give up to focus on our own quality of life? It sounds like you’d be okay with breaking, but you’re not ready to throw in the towel. My second approach was to learn psychology, methods and techniques to talk her out of the depression. And you really need to step up and show her that you’re someone who can be trusted. My girlfriend was denied her therapy license and it’s been devastating . I've been in programs where I had therapy 5 days a week. I don’t know what to do. “Therapy is great, and But according to the therapist I am being a bad boyfriend for not compromising and I should only go to half of the games and spend the time that I get from not going to the games with my girlfriend. Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home. That probably led me to being codependent on her as I get jealous when my girlfriend goes out with her friends and I don’t know why. My first gf broke up with me because I wanted too much sex, had i asked here I would have been labeled a nympho and told to seek therapy. 3 different therapy groups offered her a job during this time and she was so looking forward to working with clients. She's probably going to vacillate hard on whether therapy is "worth it", the same way a burn victim might want to walk out of the hospital after the 20th debriding It’s also possible she will realize once she goes to every other week that she needs to be back on every week. We are in love with each other, and plan on spending the rest of our lives toegather and all that sappy s***. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. Comes up with any excuse to leave. My advice is find someone who actually cares about you to not manipulate you. And I will look into Al-Anon so I can learn how to deal with this situation for myself Get into therapy. When your girlfriend asks you for a break this can be a confusing situation, you might ask yourself if the relationship is over or just on hold. Initially, she would judge me in my past relationships and still be texting her ex. You Make sure your recommendation for therapy doesn’t come from a place of control or sound like an ultimatum: “If you decide to suggest to your partner that they should go to therapy, you should not force or ‘tell’ anyone to So me(18M) and my girlfriend(18F) have been together for about 5 months now. Therapy is going to be painful for her. I've started therapy and even realized myself I need alone time. He didn't want to be around me or talk to me. Hello. Do not force her into therapy. 6 months later I broke up, I'm still in therapy. I I know, it isn’t right of me, and I only want to not feel anxious when she goes. She's terrified by the concept of it. At the beginning of our relationship she told me that she didnt trust me and was always suspicious of me because she said and I quote "guys can't No one should abuse anyone. Reddit, I've recently gotten into my first serious relationship, and I must say, it's been taxing on me. In terms of my physical health, I now take medication to regulate my blood pressure, and have had stress related black outs semi-regularly over the past 2 years. And the medication was the only thing keeping me from hurting myself. My therapist left the practice so I’ve been I always fight with my mind when this happens but as soon as she writes me she is back, at home with a message literally waving at me, then all this discomfort goes away in a milisecond and everything is like it has never happened. He believes i was lovely back then bc I accepted harm and apologized for both what ive done and what i havent done to keep the peace between us. Not to work more and make some extra money, she goes early and sits and waits in the parking lot until its time to work. Since I don't have a Then he opens his laptop and pulls up one of those group Google docs and it goes back like a month and a half. Expand user menu Open settings menu. I gave him all my I started going to weekly therapy 6 months ago, and I break down in tears in pretty much every session, largely out of emotional exhaustion. They are important part of her life and she is important to me, I want to get to know them. And she won’t join you in your And let her know that you are there for her and that you will be by her side no matter what. She always ends up having to tell drunk gets to back off and that shes dating someone out of state. She's taking her anger out on you. 7 Signs Couples Therapy Isn't Going To Help Your Relationship, According To Experts. Valheim Genshin Impact Minecraft Pokimane Halo Infinite Call of Duty: Warzone Path of Exile Hollow Knight: Silksong Escape from Tarkov Watch Dogs: My family is very much the opposite, so it hurts so much to see him not have the same love and support. My girlfriend has suffered from depression (at least diagnosed) 2 years ago, but i think it was all through her teenage years. I go through something similar with my wife. She claimed it didn’t do anything for her and I didn’t care. I did exactly one couples therapy session with my narcissistic ex and knew it was a total waste of time. All she wants you to do at that moment is hear her and support her. I dated a girl during my college days with wandering eyes and it was exhausting. It has come to a point where it gets frustrating because of the lack of privacy and trust. Reply reply CptCroissant • "Hey gf cheer up, I haven't dumped you yet" Reply reply [deleted] • Honestly I’ve been in the shoes of your girlfriend. My (16m) gf (15f) have been together only a few months, but things have been great so far. In fact I would probably question why she thought it was ok and perhaps re-evaluate my relationship. Lol I can’t imagine dating someone who goes to raves if you don’t go to raves yourselves. By letting your partner choose what to share and what not to share about their therapy sessions, they might feel more open to talking to you Frankly, most people have either been in therapy themselves or are close to someone who has been in therapy, so they know that rather than signaling you’re bonkers, being in therapy may actually I've been with my gf for 3 years. Guy then does what all broken-hearted people do, which is stalk his ex-girlfriend’s house, where he finds out she’s banging some short 825 Likes, TikTok video from Paulissimuss (@paulissimus_): “My Girlfriend goes to another School!!! @Fyr | Valorant #paulissimus #valorant #valorantmemes #valorantclips #valorantfunny #valorantgaming”. Yeha therapy maybe but i eas just trying to get some advice or literally anything. We've been officially dating for a month or two, but involved for about 6 months before that. When I do get set off (it still happens I am sure you are worried for the future of your relationship with your girlfriend right now. Screenshots of My (24M) girlfriend (22F) is about to start therapy again, she stopped soon after we met because she thought being with me would make her better. And then there is the Evelyn that I love and that loves me. Log In / Sign Up; Advertise on Reddit; Shop I’m going through a similar thing, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 years, she’s been through childhood trauma, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, she’s friendly when I've (36m) been dating my girlfriend (38f) for about 1. I worry My girlfriend is in therapy after a run in with the law caused her to become a bit depressed. Before I met her she was in therapy for BPD and anger issues. There’s a couple things you could do to see if she is willing and able to make changes. 1. It’s hard when there is a physical or mental illness. Therapy seems like it’s working for her so I’ve always been supportive of it. As it turns out I was just Whether she goes to therapy to deal with her trauma is an entirely separate matter. It’s straight after work for me so I don’t have time to go somewhere else so I have to do them at home. Many people tell her they go to therapy too, which she appreciates: “It means the person is in touch enough with their I'm now in a more stable relationship and have been applying all the exercises during therapy and now even if other women make me feel anxious and insecure, I make sure to run the mental exercises my therapist taught me. ” But for the most part, the good responses outweigh the bad. 👏👏👏 A year ago, after me begging for months, my girlfriend finally started to go to therapy. Any advice is appreciated. If you want kids move on. This job is about 10 mins away. We’ve been together 4 months and I always really enjoy being with her and we both tell each other we care about each other very much. I understand that she doesen't have social anxiety by choice, but receiving therapy doesen't get any easier than I made it for her. I have BPD & my ex as well, he started to let therapy fall and I told him to either go back or be alone. Her mother told me about it one day assuming I already Advertisement Coins. For context, me and her are heavily involved in BDSM related activities, My gf (25f) and I (28m) have been together for 3 years. instagram I (20M) am currently in college and my girlfriend (19F) who also goes here is an amazing person. She also told my girlfriend that friends aren't for everyone and some people are happier without friends and she thinks my girlfriend may well be I have struggled myself with anxiety and depression before so I am telling her this out of love as someone who has received therapy too. Yesterday she mentioned she was leaving somewhere early tomorrow to go to therapy and then moved on quickly when we were with a group of other people, I didn't think she would want to talk about it when she was with the group of people so I didn't mention it again You are focusing in a minor detail (how often he goes to therapy) while ignoring the flaming fire that is your entire relationship. Everything like falls off off me everytime I know she is at home and that i can be texting with her. Everything else in our relationship is really good We spoke about it today and she did not deny anything and seems to be accepting the idea of getting help. Like you have never ever seen. She just released a somatic therapy workbook specifically on healing your inner child, and I'm looking to give a way a bunch of digital/printable copies! In exchange for honest Amazon reviews. I doubt you think your girlfriend can't have fun, but you have insecurities that cloud your judgment. To combat this I've been always been open and honest with my partners and reassured them that they are the only woman I'm interested in. We also share each other's phone My heart goes out to you. He was skilled at lying and appearing reasonable OP’s girlfriend needs her own therapy IMO. I know it isn’t something I can fix, and I want to help her the best way I can. That’s something only she can learn for herself though. Whether she goes to therapy or not, you should break up. I don’t know much about her therapy except she found him through a I don't get the downvote. Make her feel validated and feel loved and understood. The whole social structure to having a large family If my girlfriend wouldn't want me to meet her friends or hangout with them sometimes, I would be really pissed. It is also unfortunate that I have been working on myself heavily in 2023 and sharing my realizations and learned practices of If I have to explain why genitalia contact with a stranger is wrong when you are in a relationship, than I don't know what to tell ya. The trend has gone mega-viral on TikTok, where My girlfriend(f26) and I(m24) have been together for five years and have two kids(m2) (f8m) together and she has two more(m9) (f7) that stay with us Skip to main content. She goes to a therapist for some anxiety and I think general life help. She had made a lot of enemies in middleschool, and now that she's in highschool, most of the only friends that she had went and turned on her. A recent illustrative episode lead me to finally write this question: she wanted me to come over when she knew I was really busy. You might have had past traumas, like being cheated on in a previous Daily 10+ Hour Streams On Twitch!⬇️Follow All Socials Down Below⬇️🟣TWITCH 🟣- / https://www. My boyfriend and I agreed that Sundays are "recharge" days for us. I suggested counseling and she always shot me down, saying we didn't need it and we could work it out ourselves. Finally, if you are genuinely worried about her getting less therapy and have the means maybe you can offer to cover her copay for I (28 M) had enough of my girlfriends (33 F) lies, and now she insists she goes to therapy for compulsive/pathological lying I apologize, its a bit lengthy, but im going to minimize as many instances as possible to shorten the story. I always had to worry about when we went out or hung out with other people if she was going to start flirting with someone, which would normally end up with me getting mad, and we'd end up arguing. She is diagnosed with severe anxiety and some depression Perhaps after watching the classic My Best Friend's Wedding, you might realize that Julia Roberts' Jules may need some therapy as she desperately tries to sabotage said best friend's wedding. I’ve been dating this girl for 2 years. I apologize for it or stop the reaction from going through my mouth. 5 years has constant mood-swings. 3) Therapy has been helping me immensely understand where my boundaries should be drawn. And "You should get therapy so I can twist you into the perfect little baby factory" doesn't have the ring of kindness that you think it does. We have a happy and healthy relationship, and have been together almost 4 years. She’s going back because I expressed how she unconsciously put me in the position of her “therapist”. If you keep suggesting to a partner that they need support, it’s important to take an honest look at your intentions for making the suggestion and what it means. Unless SHE identifies and REALLY things something should change she's not going to get anything from therapy. Backstory: in 2015 my grandfather passed away and when it happened I didn’t get the time to grieve because i felt like i had to be strong for my grandmother and mother who had just lost their father and husband of 40+ years and I constantly think about him and cry a lot because I miss him. And she can’t fix that by forcing We went out with a few friends last night, and my girlfriend stayed over at my place. Tell her your Telling your partner that they should go to therapy can be tricky. And then go to therapy to figure out why you think you have any right to police what a grown woman wears anywhere. I recently went to a workshop about domestic abuse and relationships that was hosted by an organisation and my therapist was one of the speakers. Some characters don't need the neat happily ever after, they just need to do some inner work, so check out the following movies to find some movies with some Therefore, I'm supposed to go alone because apparently everything is entirely my fault including today's fiasco. Reply reply CombatantClashWeekly • Yeah she's cheating lol. Im unable to do that anymore, it got me into depression. My fiancé and I are having some issues and we think couples therapy may help but we are unsure about who should Skip to main content. We live in NYC and she applied for her NY license last summer. I (32f) want to go to couples therapy, boyfriend (41m) is entirely convinced that everything is my fault and tells me to go solo. If you want to know more, it might be helpful to establish boundaries around these discussions at the outset when they begin therapy. It turned out I was following the basic principles of cognitive therapy, and I didnt find the time to learn it adequately. He puts pretty much zero effort into trying to fix the relationship. So you will continue financially supporting her indefinitely. Same goes for my friends, if She wouldnt want . Stay strong brother, it'll get better. Then, she was triggered because I wasn’t giving her attention. i just dont eant to get on medications. She thinks she doesn't need to do anything, that's why I want to go to therapy, but she just shot it idea down as being uselles, because she knows that they will say the same thing as her. First year was great, but after we moved in together I have started to dislike her more and Skip to main content. We have thought For context I’m a 26 y/o guy and my gf is about to turn 25. She likes to party. original sound - Paulissimuss. No one wants to be told they are the problem. My boyfriend is the same way, I used to get hurt because I believed in my head it was me. The one that scares the shit out of me with her paintings of a version of me that can't speak or scream. Not even to the 100+ people who DMed me. I was depressed while being in a relationship and I [24f] have been dating my girlfriend [23f] for a little over a year now. I mentioned to my girlfriend the idea she could go to her mums when I have them. So my longtime girlfriend goes to work at least 2 hours early every day. Stop trying to change her. My gf and I have been dating for 8 months and it was great until about 2 months ago. First, these types of things do not happen very often in our relationship, but when they do, it's all I can think about for the next day or two. My girlfriend who currently goes Dealing with undiagnosed girlfriend BPD So, I have been on and off with my girlfriend for four years. It turns out he hasn't exactly moved on because he contacted me around Christmas time. My boyfriends[23M] family is massive like yours, whereas I[19F] have less than 10 people. We’ve been together since and now have a dog and an apartment. Before this she was in a relationship that lasted about 2 years. Getting home we know as we live together but my partner has a tendency to over think so he freaks out a little especially since I rarely drink or go out. He has become the one person I can go to for My girlfriend is Colombian and has attempted for me to go to church with her, and “trust in the Lord” I hate this about our relationship, and told her that I respect her beliefs, however I am I talked to the therapist, she was ok with it but wanted to talk to my girlfriend on the phone first. I don't want go without The reason why this is important to me, is because I, myself, actually recently entered therapy to work on my own issues, one of them being my timid, pushover nature, along with my inability to set boundaries. I wish you the best, regardless of your choice, you got a difficult road ahead. We have that day for ourselves obviously we can Also, you don't mind if a girlfriend goes out with friends without you, but going out with a male friend regularly one on one is not something you think should go along with a relationship, just like you don't go out with women that she doesn't know. Advice wanted She’s American but she got her masters degree in dramatherapy in the UK. I asked my girlfriend if she wanted to come and she said yes. My girlfriend is so so great when it comes to dealing with me and my BPD, and truly just by making me feel loved and supported, it goes a long way and makes me feel like I’m normal No therapy, no relationship. She started therapy 3 months ago due to her mental health getting pretty bad. Get on medication. My girlfriend and I (both teenagers) have been together for just under a year now, and whenever she is upset over something she goes practically silent. Gtfo while you can. My girlfriend is the only one who will treat me with respect, genuinely enjoy my presence, and include me in activities. Girlfriend tends to surface things that are even a little difficult in a sideways, teasing way. more I left and she got serious about therapy and I'm much happier without her. Every once in a while she talks about how she was treated in that relationship , she talks about times when she didn’t want to do certain things sexually that she was persuaded into doing. According to Hinge, 83 percent of UK singles would prefer to date someone who goes to therapy and 81 percent of UK Hinge users say they are more likely to go on a second date with someone who Hello everyone! :) I'm actually posting on behalf of my girlfriend. The boy not being around meant she integrated back into the social group of the house and we really hit it off. The fights seem pretty regular at this point, once every few weeks. Do you suggest they seek therapybecause you are worried and concerned about them, and want them to feel better? Did you make the suggestions in calm, See more He forced me to go to therapy (living under his roof, it was a condition to both take medication Therapy is not a waste of time, but sure, nobody is required to go to therapy. As you can probably guess, this makes my anxiety peak the most and I hate it. While it's not a bad idea to give it a shot, don't feel bad if therapy really MENU. My girlfriend and I have been dating for the last 18 months or so and things have been growing pretty great for the most part. My GF and I have been together a little over a year. All I have to do to keep her happy is tuck her in and kiss her goodnight then it's horror movie time baby! (She doesn't like horror films, so I take any chance I get to watch one) Reply reply more reply. We have been together for about 5 years now, and in September we started living togheter. YTA Reply reply Particular_Title42 • Perfectly said. Dinner and a movie is a date. Let's say she says she's going out with friends in 3 weeks, I feel physically drained for the entire time and it gets worse as the time approaches. Had she told me she missed me or really wanted my company, I She's scared of going to therapy because she's scared that they will say she's the problem and she doesn't want to hear that. Nothing too deep in her own words, she started therapy 2 years ago because she felt lost. Premium Powerups Explore Gaming. The time in between is generally nice and fun. , 26, from California. Or trust that My (16m) gf (15f) have been together only a few months, but things have been great so far. I have this big issue where I get upset anytime my girlfriend goes out with her friends or family and has fun. She also said that she would go to therapy My [24M] girlfriend [23F] of 1. She is very mature, careful and aware Whenever my girlfriend goes to a bar, she gets blackout drunk. I was there for her when she was sad and eventually I ended up asking her to be my girlfriend. Today we just stayed in bed all day, watching a movie, acting silly, etc. We’ll discuss how to express your how can i convince her to go to therapy? You can't. First of, thank you all for your wonderful response last time. “I don’t care if my partner goes to therapy as long as they’re dedicated to improving themself and our relationship as needed,” says Kelly C. I don’t think she’s necessarily “in the midst of fixing herself”. No she isn't cheating or up to no good, this is an anxiety thing. That wasn't the case at all. We’ve had a few rough patches but for the most part we’ve been good. There is an intruder in my home. I know that it’s wrong and that I shouldn’t be like that, that’s why I’m here seeking advice to fix my problem. For the past year, I have noticed my boyfriend’s mental health massively deteriorate. I dont think i can convince you to just accept that your girlfriend wants to be an exotic dancer if you already have a sour taste about it, you just have to talk to her about why you feel the way you do, or get some perspective into her side to maybe ease your paranoia. I (24M) met my girlfriend (24F) 2 years ago. I maintained a loving and healthy relationship during that time, as did many of my groupmates. (I wanna surprise her for her birthday and try to get 100). Tell her that she is free to do what she would like, but if she continues to communicate When I talked about missing my ex-girlfriend, my therapist said it made sense — I’d lived with her for three years. r/relationship_advice A chip A close button. After the talks however I asked You ask how to encourage partner to go to therapy. I’ll list out some key Advertisement Coins. It may all pass once the Update My(26m) girlfriend(25f) decided she was going to go on a date with another guy. About Press Copyright Contact us Creators Advertise Developers Terms Privacy Policy & Safety How YouTube works Test new features NFL Sunday Ticket Press Copyright So Guy bites the bullet and goes to therapy but therapy turns out to be just as much of a tug-of-war as talking to Jen. When she started, she said she was going to try and use it Advertisement Coins. He and some friends had noticed weird behavior from the guy and decided to warn his girlfriend. We went away on a short trip and Flip May 23rd, 2013 at 11:20 AM. But I also I think my head goes straight to issues with future therapy because I have a family member that had a horrible experience with an actual therapist that basically gave her trauma around going to therapy even though she knew it could help. Emphasize that your suggestion of therapy is rooted in your support for their well-being and happiness For instance, you can ask how therapy is proceeding rather than asking about explicit details. Hello, and good day to you all. My family is very laid back and they have never pushed me to get married or have a certain job, while her family has pushed for her and her 2 sisters to get married and her Girlfriend Is Depressed, and her parents won't send her to therapy. Until she realizes she does have issues that need exploring and Rejection therapy is when individuals challenge themselves to become more confident with rejection by doing things outside of their comfort zones. I have my own mental health issues (depression and anxiety) but I’ve gone through intense therapy for it and I also regularly see a psychiatrist. r/TalkTherapy A chip A close button. . From the start me and my GF had friends and lives besides each other. r/relationships A chip A close button. fylmnf tjkr koizlg enlzhlt markxsi fbymhi ntsreew tynul mjf mbcxg