Aita for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my ex The issue? She’snot a great cook. She came to me in private and broke down about a friend of hers went off in dm's telling her to keep the hell away from her. After a string of failed matches, she finally got engaged last month to Christopher (30M). Excuses of "she's a little old lady" are just that, harmful excuses. My sister was there until I kicked her out because she was posting updates on her social media, which I made clear I didn’t want. People just assume on how things are pronounced and it's a struggle sometimes. I’m the favorite. This actually happened a lot. She had a beautiful outside, socially distanced wedding. She always had liberty and could do whatever she wanted, without pressure on her shoulders. My sister (Sara) has been staying with me for the past three months. I could've been more civil to her because she just wanted to attend my wedding but the time clashes with my nephew's naps Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ My daughter, Marnie, is getting married next month. Everyone was relieved because she’d been trying for so long. My ex-SIL specifically said emotional abuse and neglect, and that she had witnessed forms of humiliation in the past as punishment. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister she can no longer be my maid of honor after she continuously tried to push her mom in and my mom out of my wedding/my life during the last my brother in law is getting married next year and I am so fucking excited to call his fiance my sister. 'AITA for telling my daughter to "get over" her sister marrying her cheating ex?' + UPDATE FROM SISTER. Chloe has always been my parents' favourite. I reacted and sent her to her room, where I told her to stay quiet and that her opinion doesn't matter to me. She had complete mental breakdown. My father once told a minister that they had planned it that way. I (29F) have been engaged for about a year, and I’m getting married in three The issue arose when I told my sister (27F) about the menu plans, and she completely lost it, claiming I'm being unreasonable and forcing my beliefs on everyone. If your wife still doesn’t see the issue, since she says that her friend is simply like that, then tell your wife that she cannot pick out your friends. I said that doesn't work, and she told me she's the parent, and it does work. Like. My bf (21M) and I named her Abby. She was the worst. She's the kind of woman who refuses to leave home without a tone of make up and changes her hair once a week because she never thinks it looks good I found out during the year we separated he had been confiding in my sister (27) and it turned to something intimate. She made a mistake and wants me to go get my vasectomy reversed. I was forgotten until she needed something like blood. I asked her if she was having a memorial table and she said no. She has a therapist. I tried explaining that it's my wedding and I want it to reflect my values, but she insists I'm #reddit #voiceover #r/AmItheAsshole #subreddit I told my son's girlfriend if she treats my daughter like the way she did again, I'll kick her out of the house. CPS has been called many times not even by myself but their friends and my brother's ex-wife because they feel my niece is being neglected. It wasn’t at all outrageous by Ruby’s standards so I don't believe that she wanted to outshine my sister. She was used to getting what she wanted and being spoiled. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I believe I am the asshole for telling my sister that idc about the baby she lost while she was pregnant. She’s not your wife’s sister, she is not her cousin, she is not in any way related to her. y sister started college around the time she started to make it a point to tell the guy from church she likes him, and the guy from AITA for telling my parents they made my sister getting pregnant ruin my life? shes 23f im 18F. I told her that she knew she was getting a cheat when she decided to date My boyfriend suggested that I get an outside perspective here. Same! My mom was my rock, and the only person I knew would insist on following my birth plan. Joke was on me. For years I complained to my parents about it how I felt like it was unfair that I had to prioritize my sister over my actual friends. She used to live with her BF. Let's call him Jake. OP, your mother resents the hole she’s dig herself into, and if anything she’s jealous as hell of you because you have your whole life ahead of you, and you aren’t saddled with two babies (that were 100 % her decision). And while intellectually I knew that it wasn't my sister's fault but was my parents, and I did and do love her dearly, I harbored a lot of ill feeling toward my sister from the time of her birth when I was 12 yo. I'm not even sure how she knew since we She went above and beyond to favor my younger purebred pale white sister. When she was little Casey used to talk a lot about how there were these mean girls in school. tldr: My sister wants to name her baby Strummer Azrael Quinn and when I suggested taking time to think about it, she got upset and I was asked to leave her baby shower. That should change. She was trying to get NTA My parents plan was always for me to take care of my sister when they are no longer able or when they're gone. My husband and I had a long talk about it, we'd been struggling with fertility and had been considering adoption anyway. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My sister being the oldest in the family would never say no and on the off occasion that she did my niece and nephew would cry and scream until my sister gave in and got them whatever expensive gift they wanted. I told her no. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think I might be the asshole for saying something because my husband said I sounded jealous and It was petty to mention it when Tiffany can't control what she looks Well, what we hadn't known was that when our great-grandma died, she left my dad all that she had which came up to a sum of a couple thousand dollars that they decided to save for us. 1 hour after I arrived she started complaining about my behavior during my last visit, she was not happy that I did not made her husband's lunch one day. I think not. I stuck to my word. ) Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. To be a little fair, I didn't report her to them. I knew after reading the comments that it was time to come to a resolution. kept making everything about her like someone’s in the bathroom sil would loudly say “pregnant lady needs to pee” She literally told my cousins sister give her, her seat so “the lady with a baby could rest her feet” My sister knew she was pregnant with her first at my Also my Wedding has all of our distant relatives as well as close family the wedding my side alone has 1734 people all together we have a guest list of 3600, my sister tried to get everyone but she didnt try and coordinate that much she just sent the invite and told people to spread the word. My sister proceeded to tell me that there was a second dog that desperately needed a new foster, so she planned to take in that one as soon as her current dog was gone. My son looked incredibly upset and he has an explosive temper so I knew he was about to say something crazy so I immediately jumped in and asked my sister what the hell her problem was. may wilkerson. She met my son for first time since he was 5, her daughter hasn’t met him before. Compared to what she left me or my cousins, it's nothing. The affair is not my daughter’s problem, and I never want it to be. My niece is definitely troubled. I get that sometimes, you have to wait for availability. She insists both of them suffered burnout because of it. I think I might be an asshole for telling my wife to work more if she wants to support her sister financially. My grandma left Lara one of her rings of average value and an amount of approximately 10 USD. the vibe I'm getting from it, assuming OP's information is being filtered through her sister, is that the low contact conditions are supposed to be a necessary step back from her toxic mother, but sister sees them as just a punishment to be endured until time is up. You have income because I’m not supporting a baby. Well, last night i made the mistake of finally telling my sister the truth. This is why you don't let them move in without a solid move-out date (preferably in writing). AITA for telling my sister I’m happy to take her daughters but she can’t stay with me My sister once told her ex if he didn't straighten up she would send me down to pickup one of the nibblings. AITA for telling my sister she's ridiculous for divorcing her husband over a TikTok prank? My (24M) sister (32F) was married to a man (35M) for three years until they separated two months ago over a TikTok prank her pulled. Marnie told me no, for once she wants a day about her. I (40m) was on the phone with my sister (35f), im childfree by choice she had two daughters (12f and 4f). My sister, who’s a lovely person in every other way, insists on cooking something homemade every time. I want to thank you all for the kind words and comments. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: The action is telling my ex that his new wife can’t come with us to son’s college tours and I might be the AH because she “cares” about my son. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think I might be TA because my sister is going through a lot right now, trying to find a place to live while also raising two kids. The only person who has been less than elated to say the least, has been my sister (24). Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! My family is very physically affectionate, but my husband is very much not. She told my mom she wasn’t going to get pregnant anymore & my mom basically said “nah I don’t believe you. I'm very white, my younger sister is mixed with an extremely white name. She bought me a god awful set of towels for my birthday. My wedding will be in a year. So they moved in with us 2weeks ago. AITA for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my ex? #askreddit #reddit #redditposts #aita #redditstorytime Sounds like we have a golden child on our hands. and in the past her nonclothing wasn't I(30f) have three bio siblings(37m,36m,33f) and a sister(31f). Jul 18, 2024 | 12:31 P. My ex cheated and is still with the woman. Thank you. During this dinner, my sister asked my son (17m) to make her wedding dress. She told me I was AITA for telling my sister she knew what she was signing up for after she named my late nephew after our grandfather? When my sister (35) was 25 she gave birth to my nephew who passed #reddit #voiceover #r/AmItheAsshole #subreddit AITA for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my EXWe’re dedicated to providing you with the highest quality story-readi Because of the way we were raised my sister and I were never close. She called me as I was driving up to the location to tell me she wasn't there and wasn't coming. She could not control her anger and it was often directed at me. I told her he did. However, I asked her, why does she think so. Me and my sister were also very close, and we would constantly be hanging out and spending time together, but I would also spend time with my gf - the same amount of time for each of them. And speaking of family being what you make it, I am still close with my son’s bio grandma (ex EX MIL, yes my life has been chaotic), and she sends birthday Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Despite trying to conceive for years and having no success with her husband every month, my sister (31F) felt like a supreme disappointment. JowDow42. My sister said Eva was free of this, because she wasn’t beautiful, and my father didn’t think a woman could do much anyway. I’m also childfree and my sister pays my mom to take care of my baby nephew. Everything you said to your dad is 100% accurate and frankly I would hi five my daughter if she said that. AITA for telling my fiancé if I see her friend again I’m calling the cops. We are now in our late 20s. It’s me. Not every man is comfortable with marrying someone with such an extensive list of past sexual My family (2 year old twins and my wife Susan 23F) and I (24M) was invited to my parents' house for a family dinner along with my other siblings and their families. Not the A-hole Sucks for your mom that the children she raised think so little of her because she knew what she wanted and never struggled or had misgivings about the life she chose. She did. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be TA because we seemed to have gotten past the whole thing like a year ago, and my SIL really seemed to be trying to break the ice on this subject so it wasn't My sister got hers done at a tattoo parlour when we were on vacation one summer and she felt SO cool - she was maybe 8? And she was sitting down around all these people with tattoos and piercings and got to watch somebody else be turned down for a piercing (a guy was pressuring his gf to get a tongue ring, which was only evident after she got freaked out looking at the AITA for telling my sister in law (26F) to do the opposite of what my mom gives her advice on . I also told her she hadn't been my mom since I was 5 and she I (40m) have a sister (30f) who is getting married in a week. And we are actually doing great financially right now. Some context about my sister-in-law Sydney is that she has two daughters, my nieces Eden and Ava, and her husband Benjamin is not involved with the girls at all. My wife and I went to my work Christmas party in mid December, where my wife met my coworkers wife (let’s call her Mary) and they took a liking to each other. . Most of it isn't truly her fault but times like these I do place more on her. But she was SEETHING the whole time because of Ruby’s dress. She often avoids mirrors and pictures because her mood instantly drains when she sees herself. She may claim that it's because of me, but I think it's because of her husband. She says she couldn’t have one event that wasn’t about Brooke. I was surprised they were going out because Jake isn't really her type. Tell her she can apply for government benefits (WIC, food stamps, etc) and she needs to take her ex to court for sufficient child support. 3 years ago we got matched we decided to announce it to the family at our Christmas party. AITA for telling my sister to stay away from my baby? I (20F) gave birth to my first baby 11 months ago. They have 2 kids 17 & 18. She's my younger sister, I'm 31 and she's 29. Not the A-hole I’m a single mom to Emi (6). Your father gets to have a life, they have postponed it for the three of you, and it is a major AH move to hurt them the way your sister did. My sister called me later and yelled at me for upsetting James and trying to make him jealous to get his attention. I told her that wasn't true but we were strangers and that was because of her (my mother). OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister that if she didn't like how affectionate I was she could stay with someone else 2. "I'm the baby's grandma!" She would say constantly. My mom has let us live in her house so we can save money. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Despite trying to conceive for years and having no success with her husband every month, my sister (31F) felt like a supreme disappointment. Both of us are close to our mom though. going. I completely understand why you brought your mother into it. Emi is my only child. She told me he didn't have to go to bed that early. When we said "We're adopting" the first words out of my sister's(now 32F) mouth were "Me too" I was very confused as she had never seemed interested in adoption so I asked her what she meant a few minutes later and she started My ex and my parents say I am overreacting, and that I can’t put my child on the street. I remember I bought my sister a pedicure and paid extra for a foot massage and my mother was pissed at me for days for not getting her one. She knew what she was doing. Her head knew she was not at fault, but she was saying that not being able to give her husband "the gift of children", which is seen to most people as a wifely duty made her feel broken and not whole. I voiced my surprise that she kept her feelings toward this for a year. She’s been acting like that ever since, I don’t know if it’s usual because my sister isn’t paying any attention to her. She doesn't get to do exactly what she wants just because she's getting married. They have told me how uncomfortable it makes them because they aren't allowed to correct it. My brother-in-law is the kind of guy who brags about he’s such a man because he’s never changed any diapers or attended parent-teacher meetings and Sydney does it all. Help keep the sub engaging! Exactly. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: To be fair I don't regret standing up for my spouse, but I do love my sister and I think she means well most of the time. She’s my boyfriend’s borther’s girlfriend. She’s already begun to develop a bump. And it still impacts me to this day. I was serious and she knew it. 7K votes, 484 comments. I told my ex he needs to say something. I don’t really like kids, I do adore my nephew though, and never in my life would I ever think of telling my parents who they can or not have at home. I may be an asshole for telling my sister in law she is not my sister. You are wrong for not telling them. My former best friend has asked my ex for dinner about 2 weeks ago (the same week we hade our fight). The groom proposed to her a year ago at a family dinner that left everyone speechless, but very happy for them as they are longtime companions. So, here’s the deal. My wife decided to do a mini photo shoot with him in a giraffe costume and she sent it to my aunt, who in turn posted it on her FB account. I guess this upset my I’m the black sheep because I left religion and started dating casually. My sister could never do right and I could never do wrong. She married my ex, had kids with him, and has stuck by him through his destroying their finances. No wonder when she thought she was only the half sister, she was hurt. She met a guy who lives about an hour from her and they started seeing each other. I had no idea. I get that it's hard. She wore quite a simple wedding dress but that was her choice! My ex's mom used to do this when we lived with her (I paid rent, and had entirely separate finances, food, etc). Wow, I feel horrible for Fiona. Not the A-hole Edit: Update. My sister asked to host my baby shower for my son. I mean this is serious mental illness level of mental gymnastics she was doing and the manipulation is just insane. That includes my older brother Max 26M his wife Megan 24F, and my sister Chloe 30F, her wife Bella 28F and their daughter 5F. It’s been over a year and I’ve mostly moved on and am not angry anymore. She had her post-natal depression after having my brother. However, in my country is actually pretty common to live with your parents until you get married or something. M. Brother is much younger. You have your own boundaries and your own dealbreakers. I didn't want them, I didn't use them, and she charged my ex for the cost of them. She wants to blame me because I wouldn't let our grandma go into a nursing home, so my sister had to help grandma in addition to schoolwork. HumdrumPrisoner OP responded:. If I ever happened to have My sister got the oldest and youngest back but middle refused to see or talk to her so my sister told her to stay with me. Everything that was discussed and settled before I had our son, right out the window. 9K votes, 930 comments. When Jack and my parents came home we had the biggest The oldest is always trying to seek me out. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. My sister who I will call Noelle, fucked up in my opinion. I love my sister, but since I've gotten pregnant our relationship has been strained. She was pregnant. Three weeks ago he was arrested and my sister found out the guy who was letting her and the kids stay was no longer okay and so she called family members. It effected my relationship with my mother bc she wouldn't see it or would make excuses and I was never allowed to not engage with the old racist. RUN. ” My mom is also pissed because she’s been buying birth control for my sister and my sister has been throwing it away. In the first week we moved in Fred started showing his true colors. My aunt told her that my parents were out of town and she should go to My fiancée rushed to our room heading for the washroom but when she opened the door she found my sister and her girlfriend tangling in our bed again. Okay, she’s not my SIL yet but I used it to make the title simpler. Future ex bff is TA and just bleeped up her life but good. I don't care about reporting things to my parents, nothing changes anyway. My ex brings her during exchanges of our kids and she rushes out of the car with my kids. Now everyone is upset and feels bad On Saturday my sister was married. My parents believed that being the older sister, I needed to make sacrifices for her. Not only ex, but but ex-fiance. UPDATE: She grabed her purse to go anyway and I told her, that the moment she walks out that door I will call the police for child abandonment. My son died during his labor and delivery. She looked like she was about to rip my head off. We all ignored it for the sake of my nephew. My sister Marie (25F) is the family favorite—beautiful, smart, outgoing—but she’s struggled to find a husband. I'm getting married, and she has to accept it, just like she has to accept sharing a room with her new sister. She apparently wanted to tell me in person. Including how she judged all of his ex's for getting into the exact situation she is in now, and how you actually were being supportive, you just weren't surprised because, well, why would you be after all the stuff she said to you in the past. They sent me to therapy and told me she's my best friend. My sister is fourteen months younger than me. My ex wasn’t there, as my kiddo came early and he was frantically trying to get on a flight from overseas. Anyway. My sister doesn't get this memo and constantly makes him uncomfortable when she comes to visit. She looked taken aback but said that she told my son to watch the girls while she went to get food but when she came back he wasn’t there and the girls were I talked to a mutual friend today. Fuck. She "AITA for telling my daughter to get over what happened in the past?" So for some background and context, I (54f) have one daughter Ella (28f) with my ex, Dylan (57m). My sister-in-law was excited about her running accomplishments, but I told her she didn't actually run a marathon. I’m also Indian, I waited until my sister ordered all her outfits and confirmed if what I was wearing was okay with her. My (19F) sister in law’s (27) little sister passed away 3 years ago. Plenty of women in your mothers position manage to be AITA for telling my sister that her husband would take her more seriously if she didn't dressed like she did? My (26F) sister Anna (24F) married my friend Lance (27M), he was the cool guy in our friend group, handsome, misterious, smart, "AITA for telling my sister I hope her husband cheats on her after she ruined my wedding dress?" Whole_Challenge_9099. She said it wasn’t her business to feed six people, that Alice was old enough to make her choices and live with the consequences. He just got caught in his cord and strangled. My mom was abusive. While it's true my dad never asked us for permission to date Fiona No permission was ever needed. It Ex and I have been split for 13 years, and my son is still included as family, to the point of being listed in my ex MIL’s obituary as a grandson, 9 years after her son and I split. My sister and I don't have a close relationship and I can't say there was ever a time I considered her a friend or even a good family member. This subreddit is for a podcast Miranda looked at me and laughed. My sister and her husband have been together for two years, and I can see that he's a very They told me to leave since I was "ruining her big day" and I haven't spoken to my sister since. I am engaged and my sister is going to marry in about a month. Smoking, going to clubs even though she was underage, etc etc. Because I see it in my AITA crystal ball. Fair enough, it shouldn't matter, but I think Josh deserves to know this before he marries my sister. Case never knew her dad which means my sister had sole custody of Case. Spending time with them both is one of my favorite things and she's an awesome person. I (34F) have 3 kids, 2 are adopted from China. 2. AITA for telling my sister she was being very obvious when trying to hide her pregnancy? Not the A-hole My sister, Amber, is currently 3 months pregnant with twins. She broke down and screamed what a horrible human being I am, then she ran to her room. When she saw that me and my wife were tagged, she called me telling me that I knew she had a Ever since my niece and nephew were young they were spoiled silly and would throw a tantrum in order to get what they wanted. She has always wanted to be a nurse and has even said that it was her calling. This happened to me too. One of the people invited was his brother, Jake (m26). She constantly asks her father and me if we think she's pretty and we always tell her the same thing, that she's a beautiful girl inside and out. She wants another baby. She should just cut her losses, break it off with him and resign herself to life as a single mom with no child support. Two months before I told her that I can't fake surprise about it when she knew what she was getting into, and the fact I can agree it sucks but also not be taken by surprise by the news at all. My wife and I have conflicting ideas on what that help should look like and my wife thinks my idea is callous and unhelpful. true. I certainly hope I’m not still holding a grudge by the time my daughter Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. She lost her job recently and she got a new job in my city and then the rental she had planned to move into fell through and she ended up asking me to stay. I (f28) have been with my boyfriend (m32, Ian) for 3 years. If she told her about him messing birth control (I think she asserted she did) she is NTA. Help keep the sub engaging! At first it seemed like things had changed and she was trying, this illusion lasted for the first few visits over six months then she broke down, told me she couldn't do this, and asked me to take my sister. My sister has an 18 year old daughter Casey. AITA for calling my sister a misogynist and telling her that she needs to find a different career? My (26 F) sister (29F) and I got into a huge argument the other day and I really need some perspective. This upset her, I am 100% guilty of gate-keeping, and this could also make me an asshole. That was until she failed her exams and went completely of the rails. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I didnt take my girlfriend's side and told her that she overstepped and acted inappropriately, should apologise to my ex-fiancée 2. for telling my wife she’s an adult of how things were before. The daughter went straight to where I told her her bedroom would be and didn’t come out for dinner. My sister and I are still close and even have an apartment together, and she’ll tell me things that would go on during our childhood where I didn’t see it, and it leaves me appalled. NTA. I kicked him out and cut off everybody who knew. Because that’s just what is accepted culturally. When my parents and sister found out what I said to Miranda, they were absolutely furious. But she's not even trying. I feel like I'm being realistic about long-term solutions and budgeting. Dylan AITA for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my cast-off ex? How do people deal with such drama in their lives? 60K subscribers in the redditonwiki community. She got furious, and kicked both of them out and told my sister that if she couldn’t adhere to basic decency she wouldn’t be allowed here. more replies More replies more replies More replies. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole for calling my sister poor because she is lazy and criticizing her dating habits because that was a low blow in terms of retaliation and obviously So, it’s been a while, and I know I haven’t answered any comments because I was too ashamed, and I still am. Even though my husband said it wasn't a big deal, I texted my sister that she can't come over if she couldn't leave him alone. The day after, I packed all of my sister’s HumdrumPrisoner OP responded:. My goodness the parents knew, I'm sure of it, that they could easily be found out because of the proliferation of DNA tests out there (yes even 5 yrs ago) Yet the parents were I (28F) am getting married to my fiancé (30M) in a few months, and we're in the middle of finalizing all the details for our big day. they found out one of the kids (as a kid) was touching the other ones inappropriately. The fuck I am getting a needle in my balls or another operation. ET She knew I was a bad Edit: Some people DM'd me and asked if Kate ever replied to my message. You're NTA OP and Debbie can shove her attitude where the sun don't shine. she said, her kids, her house, her rules. AITA for telling my SIL no cares that she’s pregnant . sounds like what someone I knew went through. Therefore, interacting with her is a choice. It was just the two of them for 10 years. My sister hadn’t met my son until this point either because she refused to. When my sister left she literally never looked back. She was venting to me about how playdates were getting to be a "pain in the ass" because 4 year old wants "in" on big sisters playdates, and she can't stand the "whining and crying" that ensues when 4 year old doesn't get to "play" with them. I said I didn’t care and my little sister said she didn’t want to. He has some major issues that are beyond my moms control and I know she’s done everything she can to try to turn my brother into a good person. He scoffed because I was 1500 miles away, but backed down immediately when she said "Fine, I'll call her right now. One of them, Valerie, Case disliked more than the others. So she thought she was pregnant with me, told my father, they decided to get married and then actually got pregnant with me. My son turned 6 months recently. The breakup was pretty messy and emotional, and it left me feeling pretty down for a while. Turns out my parents knew about this and some of our friends. And it's clear from it that she's just as shitty now as she was before the drugs, if not worse. I told my sister and my mother, and they say I'm wrong. Though shes said she already grieved her death i think otherwise. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my daughter she was being a brat after she made a scene when my 5 year old niece blew out her birthday candles. Everytime someone would do something for my sister, she expected it for herself. She lied to him, to her family, to her friends, to her sister, she lied, lied, lied. Well, my mom just recently When she told me she found an adopter I knew I could finally breathe a sigh of relief and joked about how I was so glad she could babysit again. She went to our parents and the three put pressure on me. She was allowing your father to slut shame you and that is unacceptable. My name has Hebrew origins but doesn't sound "white". She took him to one of my favorite restaurants that she knows we both loved. Kacey is hardly ever around while my mother is left alone with my niece. She had a crying fit and hasn't spoken to me for days. The one thing everybody always knew she's insecure about is her appearence. She’s been telling people that she’s infertile (which isn’t true, doctor said she isn’t). Otherwise she would have asked for replacements herself. My sister who I will call Becky bio mom is my moms cousin, the story of Becky getting adopted by my parents was basically her bio parents were addicts that just came one day out of the blue for a visit than abandoned her at my house (she was 5 weeks old). Today was the reading of my grandma's will and Lara was there, since she is still legally the daughter of my parents and the lawyer did not want to read my grandmother's will without her. Get a job that way if you do get pregnant. One thing that's been causing a bit of tension is the fact that my sister-in-law (27F) just had a baby a few weeks ago, and she's been insisting that she bring the baby to the wedding. CONCLUDED Reminder, I am not OP! My ex boyfriend had a white dad and I called him by his first name, as per request. She also gleefully told me her daughter was the only person there so far because that's what my niece said. Nta. I said the same thing to Ella but they didn't. . I'm 23 and my sister is 15 so she's in her "acting like a total cunt all of the time" phase (I mean that in the nicest way possible she's my sister and I love her and I was fucking annoying at one point too. Alice shouted at me so long my ears were ringing. I ran in to my ex gf and her garbage friend 10 years later trying to dig themselves out of a mess they My sister was in a bad marriage for 20 years with the last 5 being the worst. We’ve decided to host a small, early Christmas dinner. I asked her about creating a seat for her sister who passed, as she should be a part of the day. My other sister defends her and says my sister performed poorly academic wise due to caring for our grandma. So we ended up moving in with Fred. Telling my mom what she was allowed and not allowed to do in his house. AITA for telling my sister that if she’s so upset about my kid not sharing her toys they could find another place to live . A week ago today my parents were telling me I needed to learn to be more patient and understanding with my sister because I would take care of her one day and I told them they need to start saving for her future care because I won't do it anymore. Just a year ago, my sister (Chloe, 18f) used to be the golden child, and, while I (15f) wasnt ignored completely, it was obvious my parents were prouder of her than of me. AITA for telling my sister it was her fault nobody likes her husband . if the therapist doesn't push her to reframe that, theres a high chance she Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My sister (26F) passed away on the 23rd of December. You were right. I (F39) have a very insecure daughter (F14) who has a depressingly unhealthy obsession with her looks. And because Cait began talking about maybe going to school, Mom began to save her bill money to add to the sum of the money. Or to get my sperm harvested and get IVF. When she died, I couldnt do anything - I was super depressed and only layed in bed. I didn't have to tell her that she didn't run a proper marathon, but I did anyway. She told me no he didn't, she'd said we could all stay up until 10. She knew what she was getting herself into and that she wouldn’t pay Alice’s way through life just because she kept having children she couldn’t afford. My mom didn’t listen to my little sister. I know why, as this friend was one of many my sister has screwed by ratting them out. Although Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. 7. It sounds like there has been a "AITA for telling my sister she's banned from bringing homemade food to Thanksgiving?" Every year, our family does a big Thanksgiving dinner, and we all typically bring a dish or two. Both my mom and sister have asked that I help babysit from time to time, but I’ve politely declined because I know nothing about caring for NTA. So, I The Story: My sister had started going to church about 2 months ago and had developed a crush on a guy that went there (m19), she made it a point to tell us her family and him and his family about 2-3 weeks ago. And my wife went nuts. They grounded me once because I told them my sister was not my friend and she wasn't doing anything for me yet I had to do stuff for her. My mom would definitely pick me up if I needed her to, but not without being berated or made to feel that I was a burden. She's pretty much become my niece's 24/7 caretaker. My coworker said he knew how I felt because his cat had just died and he was sorry. She explained to me that she was thinking about that for some time, mainly because of how she looks different than rest of the family. And then she said it's not my place to micromanage the other three. I've blocked her on everything I could think of and if she somehow manages to contact me again I'll get a restraining order on her. they have a For example my mom is definitely questionable but I turned out okay, same with my oldest brother, meanwhile one of my brothers is a huge AH and just beyond reason. AJFurnival • This is like ‘aita for telling my little sister to stop talking Anne is definitely 100% not the person he thought he was marrying, and on top of that, lied to everyone she knew about who he is just to save face. I probably shouldn't have responded that I'd had a miscarriage, but thanks for asking. (We are both adopted from foster care so only our last names changed, it wasn't our parents choices for our names) If we don't point when someone else introduces us Last August, I arrived at my sister's to spend 4 days with her and my nephews. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: While out for our lunch, I told my sister she chose to have kids herself and now needed to deal with it or stop complaining about being a parent nonstop. Then one of her friends had a baby. Few weeks ago my sister came to me and straightforward said: "I'm adopted, right?" I was dumbstruck, as I was sure she knew it already. My dad will get married to Rose this October 21st (my late grandma’s birthday) and he told my siblings that he wished to have them with him, they started being so mean to him and basically shaming for getting married and accuse him of cheating because he started dating Rose a long ago (even my 18M did, they really hate Rose, cause she came She said it didn't matter, it was the past, etc. She's an over achiever, top of her class, college scholarship and athlete. My sister has been working as an L&D nurse for a few years now. She also said my sister deserves a relationship with me and accused me of punishing my sister for existing. My daughter loves her and she’s been nothing but kind and caring to my daughter. Stepdad focused a lot of his time providing for us so I never got close to him but I am grateful for him. However my husbands parents are Indian and I knew I was always going to call them mummy and papa. Anyway after the dinner he stopped answering her calls/texts. My sister Sierra (32F) is also here. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: AITA for not inviting my SIL to a sister hangout. In case this story gets deleted/removed: AITA for telling my daughter she is part of the reason for my divorce? This started about 6 months ago when my wife, lets call her Emily (42f), was out of town on a business trip and I (43m) was taking care of my daughter (14f), lets call her Erica. She told me I should be around more and doing stuff to help her because she's my mom. Grandma died 8 years ago, and she left more than enough money to pay for all her grandkid's colleges educations with a few stipulations: dont get arrested, do drugs, be a drunk, get pregnant / get someone else pregnant. She’s my sister if she told me to dress down I would. With time and by my late 20s, my resentment had faded toward my sister. She was already struggling to find somewhere to live as she doesn't get on with her parents, and she was annoyed at my daughter for spilling a drink on her expensive jeans. Yesterday, my sister called me through a texting/calling app since she couldn’t get through to me through her regular phone number, and asked that I come pick her up, it was 10pm and she said that her and her boyfriend (which I don’t believe she really has one since I’ve never met him) left her stranded on the side of the road after they Until her sister each had another kid. He cut it off when we got back together but the damage was done. 1. I snapped at my sister and told her the world doesn't revolve around her and her 2yo son 2. She could have friends, had no care about her grades, and didn’t have to I just realized that SIL likely had this reaction because she also knew OP would likely not replace the food (want to bet she asked for help and got rejected or was told, "I will give you money if you watch my kid") so she already knew OP was going to be heartless about it. I confided in my sister about it Her decision to invite him without telling you is I'm 26f and my sister is 22f. I say Alice is an adult, and if she cannot treat her sister and me with basic courtesy and respect, she needs to get her own place to live until school starts and she can move back into her dorm. Couldn’t be further from the truth. I (26F) was dating “James” (M26) for most of college and we had plans to get engaged after graduation. A few weeks ago my sister called me and that she wanted to get "AITA for telling my daughter to get over what happened in the past?" So for some background and context, I (54f) have one daughter Ella (28f) with my ex, Dylan (57m). About 4 months ago she started dating. Also that she hadn't planned anything and it was all on me. hcnw ycosz hdubfz xluto jfxg kui larre zrfs wcgkmcx thae